• Serials

    PALACE PILLARS

    Dear Sista, How are you doing? The first of this letter series will be over in a bit and I have mixed feelings. But I know that you’ve been challenged, inspired and encouraged as I have been and I really cannot wait to hear about your growth experience through this journey. Today, I write to you about you- the palace pillar- a fusion of strength and beauty. Sis, with the growing celebration of superficiality and the increasing emphasis on packaging at the expense of content, it is easy to be conflicted on who the 21st century woman truly is. Is she the boss lady who torments in the corporate world…

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    YOU DON’T NEED A MADE MAN

    Dear Sista, It’s March! Happy new month to you. I hope you are already having better experiences this year. This month we will march on the unhealthy preconceptions that we have held unto for so long and march towards a better and healthier life. Now, let’s talk about your ideal man for a minute. I may not be able to mirror the image on your mind but I’m sure you wouldn’t mind spending forever with a made man. Who is a made man? That man who is secured and settled in all areas of life but marriage. That man who has exceeded the start off phase of life and has…

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    TRUE LOVE BEGINS WITH YOU

    Dear Sista, Great? Me too. It’s our 9th letter! Can you believe it? Well, in this very short piece let’s talk about love. Sis, nobody tells us what true love is or how it’s supposed to feel but all our lives we hope and pray and wait for it. Somewhere deep down we crave for that unexplainable magical bond to connect us eternally to someone special. Some of us get lucky, some of us don’t, but  through our trials and errors we get wounded and scarred to varying degrees. However, true love should really not be limited to this preconception. Every sort of love we feel and share with anyone and everyone…

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    IT’S YOUR LIFE, BE RESPONSIBLE FOR LIVING IT

    Dear Sista, Thank you for reading and responding to my last letter. We made it! It’s a new year and as usual you must be bombarded with tips on what you must do and how you must live to experience a better year. But amidst the multitude of counsel, you must find your own voice and make your decisions. Today, I write to you about taking responsibility for living your life. Many times people in the height of emotions speak sweet empty nonsense to you about how committed they are to your welfare and how your progress and all round wellness is their priority. These unsolicited confessions are usually born…

  • Just a thought

    WHAT WOULD JESUS DO ON HIS BIRTHDAY?

    It’s another Christmas and as usual, everyone is thrilled. This time, everyone but me. The generous parade of the green and red colors, buildings enlivened with decor and lightening, ornamented trees and buildings, bland carols with a repertoire of the same old or similar renditions, and yes, Santa Claus, are basic indicators of this once beautiful, now predictable season. “What is new?” I asked myself in a quiet moment of coming clean about how bored and tired I was of the rituals of Christmas when a question popped up in my head; “What would Jesus do on his birthday?” I jerked. This revelation may come as a shock to many…

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    WHEN PASSION COOKS…

    When passion cooks the entire nation perceives the aroma. Passion, zest, zeal, whatever you choose to call it, is the needed ingredient for the preparation and successful execution of our visions and dreams in life. Any engagement that is short of passion leaves us lethargic, doleful and miserable. I counsel myself everyday never to engage in projects that I am not passionate about because when I do, I under-perform. For our competence to incessantly match-up to and inspire our performance, we need a dollop and two scoops of passion. To outperform our competition and set new standards in our vocation, we need passion. To amass fecundity and become virtuosos at our…

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    GETTING THE RESPECT YOU DESERVE

    I hear people say it and frankly, I used to say it too. “People don’t respect me as much as they should”. That was my line, yours may only be similar. Bottom line, we want the same thing; respect. It would be nice to get noticed by people especially those you care about. It would be nice for them to acknowledge your presence in the company of their friends. It would be great if they’ll treat you with honor, dignity and respect. But the reality however is, they don’t always do and in fact, some of them never will. That hurts. It hurt me too. Then I discovered, after many…

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    CONTENT? GREAT. CONTAINER? EVEN BETTER.

    Over the years I’ve met quite a number of people. And frankly, a remarkable number of them seemed to be carried away with what they’ve got going-on on their inside that they lose the entire picture of what their outside is supposed to look like. They seemed to be driven by the knowledge of what they carry and their capacity to effect changes around them, that they deflect counsels on their outward appearance with statements like “I’m good at what I do” or “I’m a great mum and a good wife and that’s all that matters”. For their sake I wish that were true. I wish all that truly matters is…