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    PRODUCTIVE WAYS TO MANAGE CHAOS

    Underlying chaotic situations are emotional energies that you should recognize, harness and channel productively. You never know the wealth of fuel for innovation and creativity you’re sitting upon until you activate it. Deborah Adeojo, Productive Way to Manage Chaos Word usage: Chaos (a state of disorganization); Chaotic (lacking a visible order or organization) Recently, my life has been a bit chaotic. I woke up a while ago to realize that the deadlines that were once miles away in what seemed like a minute ago are now staring at me right in the face like the mean fun-sucking gods they are. Yet, the everyday responsibilities of being human and woman won’t…

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    I’M WOMAN ENOUGH

    I’m not a poet but I wrote a poem for IWD2019. I hope it speaks to you as a man or woman. I’d love to know what you think about this in the comment section. Enjoy the read and stay committed to #BalanceForBetter.   I’m Woman Enough! I don’t need to be tough, I don’t need to be strong, I don’t need to do a million things to prove my worth, I don’t need to reinvent to meet your cut, Come closer, step up, I’m woman enough   I don’t need your like but I’ll enjoy the ride, If you tell me I’m fine, I’ll respond with a smile, And…

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    IS THE FUTURE FEMALE?

    Few weeks ago, the Nigerian Law School, for the first time in history, graduated 161 first-class students.  113 were female. A pro-feminist male announced excitedly on social media that “the future is female”. Many feminists applauded. I remain skeptical. And it’s not because the numbers aren’t impressive but with several years of our investment in female education in relations to the social impact, I’m convinced that our metrics for measuring real progress and perhaps our motive itself is faulty. Isn’t it obvious at this point that some numbers don’t really matter? From where I stand to observe, the future is not female. In fact, I hope it is not. In…

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    TABLE MANNERS: 7 RULES OF ENGAGEMENT FOR WOMEN “SITTING AT THE TABLE” (Part 2)

    Welcome back! Ok, if you’ve not read part one, you may not  understand what we’re doing here so click here to read it and then come back to continue. If you’ve done that, we’re good to go!   #Rule 4- BE A PART OF THE CONVERSATION. Please don’t decorate the table. You’re not an accessory, ornament or a statistical representation. You’re not at the table to say “yay” or “nay” when situation demands. You’re not the designated silent listener to every conversation. You are at the table to influence and make decisions, do that! Contribute to the conversation. In fact, start some conversations. Share informed opinions. Agree. Disagree. Have an opinion…

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    TABLE MANNERS: 7 RULES OF ENGAGEMENT FOR WOMEN “SITTING AT THE TABLE”

    Hello! If you are a leading lady, by which I mean a woman in any position of leadership, you are sitting at the table and this is for you. This piece is also for you if you are a lady aspiring towards any form of leadership or you are a man with women in your life. In fact, this piece is for everyone. If you never get to personally use this information, you get to help someone with it someday. If you are not familiar with the expression “sit/sitting at the table”, it refers to women occupying leadership positions and in capacities where decisions are discussed, influenced and made. Originally,…

  • Serials

    #NowThatYouAreSingle… Chew With Your Mouth Closed

    I can’t remember having to adhere to strict table manners when I was much younger but I remember vividly how insistent my mum was that we chew with our mouths closed. In all honesty, my brother and I chewed our food like every other child we knew- casually, without much thought to it. But my mum would insist that we chew our food like it was a highly sensitive secret operation that no one should to know about. In fact, she would often add that no one needed to hear us chew. If you think this last one is easy, please try eating a dry and crunchy snack like chin…

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    Knock Knock, I’m Back!

    Hello World! It feels so good to be back. A lot has happened since the last time I published consistently. I am finally writing my first book which will be out this August (trust me to fill you in on the details progressively). Of course, I’ve moved from shewrites.com.ng to this beautiful and personal new address. I finished my Masters and in a couple of weeks I’d be back in school exploring research in African Studies with focus on Gender Studies (a field I’ve always been passionate about but finally found courage to explore academically). However, three things have not changed; my passion for writing, my chronic mood swings, and…

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    Re-Examining Psalm 23:1- The Lord is my Shepherd; I SHALL not want

    As a young girl privileged to be born to and raised by Christian parents, I had the exciting yet daunting responsibility of memorizing and reciting Bible verses at Sunday school and during special occasions in church. Unlike my older brother, I don’t enjoy memorizations if they don’t rhyme like poetry and especially when there are numbers/figures involved. I have simply always thought it a more honorable (read as “easier”…lol) pursuit to understand and explain written thoughts rather than to be given to plain memorizations. However, I had no choice (still don’t) but to memorize a few including the famous Psalms 23.   The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not…

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    YOUR LIFE IS NOT “YOURS”

    Dear Sista, How are you Sis? We’re continuing our journey as regards our relationship with God and today I’m reminding you of one truth we conveniently forget as we journey in faith through life. Your life is not yours! It once was, but it no longer is. It’s quite interesting that we often want to have our cake and eat it. But we simply can’t. We cannot give our lives to God and still run our lives. We cannot call Him our Lord and still call the shots. We cannot be both in and out at the same time and there is no middle ground in this journey! To become…

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    GROW UP

      Dear Sista, Yes! We made it to the second segment of this letter series. Remember I told you at the beginning that we’ll be looking into three dimensions of your relationships; your relationship with yourself, with God, and with other people. So, after 7 letters discussing you and yourself, we’re moving on. Today, in relations to your relationship with God, I’m charging you on the need to grow up! Sweet Sis, growth testifies to the presence of life. Wherever life is, growth is and vice versa. You simply cannot say that your relationship with God is alive without evidences of growth mirrored by an improving character, significant spiritual experiences…