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    THE TREASURE CHEST

    Dear Sista, It has been an exciting week and I trust that all is well with you. Let’s talk. Often times I get dragged into conversations on rape and sexual assault and every time, with insincere curiosity, I’m asked “Who is to be blamed?” especially when two adults are involved. Ridiculous question, right? Well, I don’t know where you stand on this but I’m persuaded by reality, facts and truth to maintain the opinion that regardless of the circumstances surrounding such case, the victim remains a victim and the culprit, and culprit alone, DESERVES TO AND MUST ALWAYS be blamed. In my opinion, sexual advances and engagements not mutually consented to…

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    WHY YES? WHY NOW?

    Dear Sista, How are you doing? Yesterday was International Women’s Day and though I do not say it as often as I should, I celebrate you. I celebrate the beautiful woman you are and the much more beautiful woman you are becoming. You inspire me in many ways and I’m humbled to know you and be a part of your amazing journey. Sista, note that being a truly amazing woman is an enduring process  of growth, adjustments and readjustments, so keep thirsting for better and never rest your oars. Above all, take up the daily challenge to inspire and be inspired. Now, let’s talk about reasons. Sis, I have observed and discovered…

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    YOU DON’T NEED A MADE MAN

    Dear Sista, It’s March! Happy new month to you. I hope you are already having better experiences this year. This month we will march on the unhealthy preconceptions that we have held unto for so long and march towards a better and healthier life. Now, let’s talk about your ideal man for a minute. I may not be able to mirror the image on your mind but I’m sure you wouldn’t mind spending forever with a made man. Who is a made man? That man who is secured and settled in all areas of life but marriage. That man who has exceeded the start off phase of life and has…

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    TRUE LOVE BEGINS WITH YOU

    Dear Sista, Great? Me too. It’s our 9th letter! Can you believe it? Well, in this very short piece let’s talk about love. Sis, nobody tells us what true love is or how it’s supposed to feel but all our lives we hope and pray and wait for it. Somewhere deep down we crave for that unexplainable magical bond to connect us eternally to someone special. Some of us get lucky, some of us don’t, but  through our trials and errors we get wounded and scarred to varying degrees. However, true love should really not be limited to this preconception. Every sort of love we feel and share with anyone and everyone…

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    YOU CANNOT BE CARELESS IN SPEECH

    Dear Sista, Let’s talk about the content and nature of our spoken words once again. I’m quite particular about this issue because, naturally, we ladies tend to talk excessively. Trust me, it’s all in our genetic makeup. However, research has proven that as ladies, what we say (our speech) is usually controlled by how we feel (our emotions)). This is quite scary because we also naturally tend to oscillate between a range of emotions. For me this means that although we are emotional talkers, we cannot afford submit to being driven by something as fickle as our emotions. I cannot efficiently speak on the need to carefully select and think…

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    IF YOU MUST, DO IT HAPPILY

    Dear Sista, I trust you are fine. It’s been an eventful week for me and I know this weekend won’t be less engaging. Thank God I have you to write to… therapeutic! Let’s talk about happiness for a minute. We all have an idea of what happiness is but we aren’t all sure of how to create and maintain this psychological state especially when stuck in unpleasant situations. I used to be there. In fact, I used to think that the statement “happiness is a choice” was quite silly. Now I know better. As I have grown, I have learnt that happiness is something we can consciously create even in…

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    THE WORLD IS WATCHING

    Dear Sista, Happy new month to you Sis! It’s February, the month of many expressions. I sincerely hope this month delivers to you beautiful moments laced with fulfilled expectations. Today, let’s talk about the hidden cameras. Sweet sis, I know you are not reality TV star and thank God you are not on a criminal watch list, but one fact is indisputable, you are under surveillance. An utterly incorrect expression we frequently use is “No one is watching me”. We wish. Sis, you may not know who or where, but you are being observed and imitated. Every day you wake up, the cameras start rolling but unlike movies, you cannot…

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    Bridle Your Tongue

    Dear Sista, How are you today? It’s the last Wednesday in this month and I’m sharing with you a caution that will protect you from needless stress, disappointment and heartbreak this year. It’s simple; bridle your tongue. Information is power- Everyone knows it, but not everyone lives in  its consciousness. It amazes me how often we, out of excitement or depression, empower people with crucial information about our lives. Don’t get me wrong, information sharing is a constant feature of all human interactions. Our relationships thrive on communication and communication is simply information sharing. However, we must be wise and deliberately determine what must be shared, what should be shared, and with…

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    WHEN YOU FIND SOMETHING GOOD, NOURISH IT

    Dear Sista, I’m tired, my eyes are closing in sleep, but this cannot wait so I’m here. The past few days have been full of activities for me but this moment is not about me and my life, so let’s focus on you. How are you? Honestly, it’s amazing to watch you blossom into the confident total woman that you have always been on the inside. I am particularly thrilled to be a part of your journey. Today, I write to you on the need to nourish and provide a thriving environment for everything and everyone that comes your way. Initially, I was going to write to you on a…

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    BEAUTY IS NOT SELF-MAINTAINING

    Dear Sista, Trust you are having a great start to the year. I am always excited to write you. Today I follow my heart to share with you insights on your duty to preserve and maintain one of your greatest assets as woman- your beauty. The truth is obvious; you are an epitome of beauty! God was intentional about you and about every feature of you. He took his time, handpicked the best genes and crafted a unique work of art intended to delight the senses and excite both intellectual and emotional admiration. Nevertheless, the qualities you effortlessly possess cannot maintain themselves independently. They require conscious efforts on your part…