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    I’M WOMAN ENOUGH

    I’m not a poet but I wrote a poem for IWD2019. I hope it speaks to you as a man or woman. I’d love to know what you think about this in the comment section. Enjoy the read and stay committed to #BalanceForBetter.   I’m Woman Enough! I don’t need to be tough, I don’t need to be strong, I don’t need to do a million things to prove my worth, I don’t need to reinvent to meet your cut, Come closer, step up, I’m woman enough   I don’t need your like but I’ll enjoy the ride, If you tell me I’m fine, I’ll respond with a smile, And…

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    IS THE FUTURE FEMALE?

    Few weeks ago, the Nigerian Law School, for the first time in history, graduated 161 first-class students.  113 were female. A pro-feminist male announced excitedly on social media that “the future is female”. Many feminists applauded. I remain skeptical. And it’s not because the numbers aren’t impressive but with several years of our investment in female education in relations to the social impact, I’m convinced that our metrics for measuring real progress and perhaps our motive itself is faulty. Isn’t it obvious at this point that some numbers don’t really matter? From where I stand to observe, the future is not female. In fact, I hope it is not. In…

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    A REMARK ON FOLUKE DARAMOLA’ PHILOSOPHY OF GENDER INEQUALITY 

    I bet you wonder why I’d go through the stress of writing an unsolicited response to a comment that perhaps is not worth much. Or, if you are quite familiar with my commitment to gender-related issues, you may conclude that I have no self-control. But I do. Yet, I seem to have friends who are relentless in their efforts to save me from what in their opinion is a destructive path. They ever so dutifully snoop for trending anti-feminist conversations and quotes, and plaster them in my face, that perhaps I’d be saved from perceived damnation. So, as expected, one of my saviours brought Daramola’s comments to my notice. I’m…

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    WOMEN AND THE STRUGGLE FOR GENDER PARITY (2)

    NOW, the debate over the years is that because the man is different from the woman then one has to be greater/ better or of more relevance than the other. But in the real sense, different and unequal are not interchangeable concepts or words. The age long fight has really not been about equality because God already made the man and woman equal. The movement, however, is to ensure that everyone everywhere recognise and embrace this unchangeable equality. It’s simple; though we are different, we are equal.   But are we equal enough to have a fair shot at leadership and excel at it? Absolutely. Every society needs true inclusion of…

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    WOMEN AND THE STRUGGLE FOR GENDER PARITY (1)

    MANY of those close to me accuse me of being a feminist but that’s an assumption that depends on one’s definition of the term. Personally, I have struggled with finding where I fit in in this sphere, so I chose to do away with the concept and focus more on the cause which is of greater importance than definitions and personal interpretations. For those who bother to ask, I tell them that I am what I call “an accidental feminist”. This is simply because my interest in issues of gender marginalisation and equality was an unconscious development. As a young girl, I had my fair chance to become what I…

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    A THOUGHT ON BREAKUP-INDUCED SUICIDE

    Gosh! I know I am no relationship coach and frankly, I try to avoid speaking on the subject because I have realized that not too many people share my views on what an ideal relationship should be, and honestly, I’ll be more uncomfortable if they do. Nevertheless, I feel the urge to break the silence and destroy the myth around “breakup-induced suicides”. I must say that there is nothing romantic or sane about killing yourself physically, emotionally or psychologically because of a breakup. I have a “tough love” saying that goes “Dumbville hath no foolishness like a woman (or a man) who loses her (his) will to live because of…

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    7 MONTHS A SLAVE: THE INHUMANITY IN THE STATE OF OSUN

    Last year I saw a movie on slavery. It was a remarkable cinematic adaptation of 12 Years A Slave; the 1853 slave narrative memoir by Solomon Northup. Like my experience with every slave trade-oriented literature and artwork I had come across, my heart was gripped with sorrow and anger and resentment. I simply hate and detest slavery on all counts. Nothing can justify it; and for me; it’s an evil we must expunge in all its manifestations. In this particular narrative, the plight of Solomon was very touching to me because unlike some who were born to slavery; he was once a freeman. Solomon was a New York State-born free…